This week was emotionally stressful, and I am very grateful this month’s scroll reminds me daily to see each day as a brand new, very precious gift.
I had to let go of a newer friend who, I realized, would not be healthy for me to remain in contact with. I cherish people who share some of my passions, such as for healthy living, which she does. However, when I shared a need for boundaries on certain issues, I was shut down, unheard, and told I was offensive. This saddened me and made me question myself. Was I offensive? Should I stay quiet and continue to be stressed by her? After meditating and reciting the ever-empowering Gal in the Glass poem I realized, I couldn’t.
A recovering people-pleaser, I struggle asserting myself in a healthy way at times. I did it in this instance, but had to work through feeling guilty and confused for a bit. In the end, it was worth it. I am still sad, but I know what happened is for the best. Life is too short. I am worthy of healthy boundaries. As another, healthier friend shared with me, when we let go of unhealthier friends (or anything unhealthy, for that matter), we make space and time for healthier ones. I like that! So that’s a goal for 2015 – to make one more healthy, safe friend.
I am still without a cellphone and loving it. Who knew?
We are in the last third of class already – wow. I am getting better at writing more concisely, which feels freeing and so good. I love freedom of any kind!
I find that when people violate boundaries in one area they generally will do it other places too. Learning to stand up for yourself is so vital. Great job!
Thanks Patricia! You are so wise….and right. Love that insight! 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing….
Love LOVE –LOVE– the Healthier choices for a better life. It is so true in EVERY aspect of our lives, we only have so much time and space, makes my heart happy to hear you’ve gotten so much growth and abundance already!
Thanks so much Don. I so appreciate your encouragement and kind words. I must confess it is not easy, but it is what is needed 🙂
Ilona – I can just picture you in the “wonder woman” stance before claiming your healthy space! Good job! You will become a slave to THIS new habit, I’m sure!!
Awww thanks Deb. I love that!! I really loved that part of the webbie this weekend. So awesome.
Oh, well done! You are VERY MUCH WORTHY of proper healthy boundaries, and I love your goal for the year! Ooh – and I think you’ve come across a way that the pillar “hurt feelings” of the comfort zone can inspire us to widen them!
Ellen – yes, I hope so. Thanks for the love and support. I so appreciate it! Love your wisdom…
You are on your way Ilona. Your wellness is of upmost importance and you are making healthy choices here. What a journey it is! Enjoy, Carol
thanks Carol!!